That is a quote from Susan Sarandon in the April 2, 2012 issue of People magazine. I knew there was a reason I have always loved her. I can relate. It is exactly how I feel about my own life right now. Following the plan was killing me. So I stopped. She did it at an even scarier age. Still stunning at 65, she jumped into the single life 2 years ago after splitting with hunky hubby Tim Robbins, 13 years her junior. Screw age. Now she is involved with a man in his thirties. You go girl! In the article she admits to a bit of lipo-suction under her chin and eyes and she is open to trying other procedures down the road. Why not?
She also says in regards to her "sex symbol" status, "...it's really more of an attitude. Sexuality means that you're saying yes to life." As a recently more mature single woman, I could not agree more. I don't feel my age these days. In fact, I feel great. I notice the looks. When I was married, any looks I might have gotten, went unnoticed. I was not available. Now, I sense it. Or maybe they sense my status change. Not sure. But there has been a shift. There is no question about that.
The other thing that shifts is friendships. I am someone new amongst my old married friends and I also relate more now to my single friends, some of whom are new as well. I just spent a fun weekend with two girls I work with. (see us in the photo below) A total of three decades separate us, but what I noticed was that was the only difference. We have more in common than not. We all long for love and success and happiness and age does not discriminate in that department. The youngest of the three could be my daughter, the one in the middle was apparently my daughter in a previous life (I was her father) and we got along famously. We all had something to learn from one another and that is what is so great about it. There is a reason these women have come into my life and I into theirs and it is all part of each of our personal journeys. We may not realize why right now, but the reasons will reveal themselves over time and that in itself is precious.
Susan Sarandon also describes her new single status as "terrifying and exhilarating" all at once and I get that too. Their split has given both of them "a chance to live a more authentic life".
Saying yes to life has that effect.